Therapy for Generational Wounds and Building Healthy Relationships
For Women in Seattle and across Washington State
Build the Relationships You Deserve—Starting with Yourself.
Relationships are at the heart of being human. They shape how we see ourselves, how we connect with others, and how safe we feel in the world. But when your earliest relationships—whether with parents, siblings, or caregivers—were marked by neglect, emotional immaturity, or control, it can ripple into every other connection you have.
Maybe you struggle with trust, feeling unseen, or always being the one who gives more than you get. Maybe you’re stuck in cycles of people-pleasing, conflict avoidance, or perfectionism—whether at work, with family, in friendships, or in romantic relationships. Or maybe certain relationships in your life feel painfully one-sided, draining, or unpredictable, leaving you questioning what’s normal and why this keeps happening.
You might wonder: Why do my relationships feel so hard? Why do I keep ending up here? Will I ever have the kind of deep, reciprocal connections I long for?
The answer is yes. These patterns aren’t your fault, and they’re not permanent. Healing starts with how you relate to yourself—learning to recognize your needs, set boundaries, and trust your own voice. With the right support, you can break free from old conditioning and build relationships that feel fulfilling, safe, and real—whether that means improving existing relationships, creating new ones, or redefining what connection looks like for you.
Do You Struggle to Feel Safe and Seen in Your Relationships?
If you find yourself:
Over-explaining, people-pleasing, or avoiding conflict out of fear of rejection
Feeling responsible for others' emotions, even at your own expense
Repeating painful relationship dynamics, even when you try not to
Struggling to trust, open up, or believe you're worthy of support
Feeling exhausted by relationships that are one-sided or transactional
Constantly questioning yourself or wondering if you’re “too much” or “not enough”
…many people share similar struggles. These patterns are deeply ingrained, but they are not unchangeable.
Why These Patterns Are So Hard to Break
When you grow up in an environment where love feels conditional, unpredictable, or unsafe, your nervous system adapts. You learn to anticipate others' needs, minimize your own, and prioritize keeping the peace—because that’s what kept you safe. These patterns follow you into adulthood, shaping your relationships in ways that may not serve you anymore.
If you had a narcissistic, emotionally immature, or absent parent, you may have learned that love has to be earned—that you must perform, please, or shrink yourself to be worthy of care.
If you’ve been in controlling or manipulative relationships, you may have internalized the idea that love comes with conditions, walking on eggshells is normal, or your needs are “too much.”
If you’ve struggled with loneliness or isolation, you may have trouble letting people in, fearing they will hurt you or leave when they see the real you.
These patterns run deep, but they are not who you are. They are responses to past pain—pain that you can heal from.
How Therapy Can Help
Healing is not just about understanding where these patterns come from—it’s about learning to relate to yourself and others differently. Therapy can help you:
Recognize and unlearn unhealthy relationship patterns
Develop boundaries that feel natural and empowering
Heal from past wounds so they don’t dictate your present
Learn to trust yourself and your perceptions
Build confidence in asking for what you need
Cultivate relationships that are mutual, nourishing, and fulfilling
Through our work together, you’ll learn how to show up in relationships as your full, authentic self—without fear, guilt, or shame.
