Individual Therapy for Relationships & Connection
For Women in Bainbridge Island and across Washington State
Build the Relationships You Deserve. Starting with Yourself.
You’ve done a lot of work on yourself, yet relationships still feel harder than they should. Maybe you feel close to people but never fully seen. Maybe you carry the emotional load, smooth things over, or keep the peace until it wears you down.
Sometimes the distance is subtle. A friendship that feels one-sided, a partner who seems impossible to reach, a lingering sense that you can’t relax and just be yourself. Other times, it’s clear: painful patterns, unhealthy dynamics, or a loss of trust that leaves you questioning what’s next.
You may not know exactly why it keeps happening, only that you’re tired of it.
When old patterns keep showing up
Many of these struggles can be traced back to the ways we learned to connect early in life. If you grew up around criticism, control, neglect, or emotional immaturity, you might still carry the survival habits that once kept you safe, like staying quiet, pleasing others, overexplaining, or keeping your guard up.
As an adult, those same habits can leave you feeling unseen, disconnected, or resentful. They can make closeness feel risky and independence feel safer than intimacy. Therapy helps you understand where these patterns come from and, more importantly, how to create relationships that feel calm, equal, and genuinely supportive.
What we focus on
I work with individuals navigating any relationship that feels confusing, draining, complicated, or important to them, whether that person is a partner, friend, parent, coworker, or someone else.
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For anyone exploring dating, situationships, early-stage relationships, or wanting to choose healthier partners. I also help with online dating, offline connection, dating women, and navigating identity questions.
We can focus on:
Getting clear on what you want and dating from your values
Identifying dating blindspots and strengthening self-trust
Reducing anxiety in early relationship stages
Learning healthy pacing so you stay grounded
Using dating apps without burnout
Finding ways to meet people offline
Recognizing red flags and shifting old patterns
Approaching dating women with confidence (wlw)
Navigating coming out later in life or internalized pressure
Feeling more empowered and intentional in your choices
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For people dealing with conflict, communication issues, attachment patterns, life transitions, or the question of whether to stay or leave. Also for those who want to strengthen a relationship that’s already good.
We can focus on:
Communicating your needs with more confidence
Understanding how your attachment style shapes connection
Breaking conflict cycles and staying steady under stress
Building boundaries that support closeness
Deepening trust, intimacy, and emotional safety
Navigating big transitions as a team
Clarifying whether the relationship is healthy and right for you
Responding effectively to immature or avoidant behaviors
Noticing family-of-origin patterns and changing them
Growing into a calmer, more intentional partner
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For the grief, disorientation, and rebuilding that follow the end of a relationship. Also for integrating lessons and creating a healthier foundation for future relationships.
We can focus on:
Processing grief, shock, confusion, or relief
Finding steadiness in the middle of major change
Rebuilding identity, confidence, and self-worth
Separating your needs from your ex-partner’s expectations
Coping with logistics like moving, shared responsibilities, or co-parenting
Understanding what the relationship taught you
Healing patterns you don’t want to repeat
Reimagining your future, with or without dating
Preparing for healthier relationships down the line
Healing at a pace that protects your nervous system
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For friendship struggles, chosen family, family-of-origin patterns, workplace dynamics, and any “complicated person in your life.” Especially helpful when you can’t neatly categorize the relationship.
We can focus on:
Strengthening or repairing friendships
Healing after a friend breakup
Navigating old wounds or roles in your family
Breaking generational patterns
Setting boundaries with emotionally immature or narcissistic parents
Feeling steadier around people who trigger you
Understanding whether a relationship is workable or healthier from distance
Building supportive community and chosen family
Handling difficult workplace relationships
Untangling dynamics you’ve repeated across many relationships
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For identity questions, patterns you want to change, boundaries, self-trust, and learning who you are in relationships.
We can focus on:
Reducing people-pleasing and expressing yourself honestly
Healing burnout and overdoing
Strengthening self-trust and emotional awareness
Responding instead of reacting in relationships
Clarifying your values and choices
Setting boundaries without guilt or fear
Rewriting old stories about who you’re “supposed to” be
Feeling more confident in dating, friendships, and family dynamics
Taking up space with more calm and clarity
Becoming someone you’re proud to bring into every connection
What begins to change
As you heal and grow, relationships start to feel less confusing and more natural. You notice red flags sooner and feel confident enough to act on them. You stop over- or under-functioning and start acting more intentionally. You communicate with honesty instead of walking on eggshells.
You become the kind of person who can love deeply without losing yourself. And that changes everything.
How I Work
My relationship work is rooted in attachment theory, neurobiology, and nervous system regulation. We look at the patterns that show up in your relationships and trace them back to the places where connection, safety, or trust got interrupted. Whether you relate most to anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, or a mix of both, therapy can help you understand why certain dynamics feel familiar and shift the ones that keep you stuck.
Together, we identify your core relationship values, build emotional awareness, and develop healthier ways of relating that feel aligned with who you are. This is relationship therapy for individuals who want deeper connection, more security, better communication, and relationships built on mutual respect. The work applies to any relationship in your life, not only romantic ones.
I do not offer couples therapy, but the work we do together often strengthens the progress you are making in couples counseling or offers support when the person you want to work on the relationship with cannot or will not attend therapy. Clients often come to me wanting to understand their own emotional patterns, heal attachment wounds, and build skills that support long-term, meaningful change.
Ready to Start?
I help women across Washington understand their patterns, strengthen their boundaries, and build relationships that reflect their values and self-respect.
Online sessions are available now for women anywhere in Washington. In-person sessions and therapy intensives on Bainbridge Island begin in early 2026.
If you’re ready to stop replaying the same painful patterns and start creating relationships that actually work, I’d love to help you begin.
Your Therapy Options
Flexible therapy designed for real life
Telehealth
I currently offer secure online therapy for women across Washington State. Telehealth makes it easy to fit sessions into your life, whether you’re at home, at work, or anywhere you have privacy. Many clients appreciate the flexibility, comfort, and consistency that virtual sessions provide.
In-Person on Bainbridge Island
I offer a limited number of morning appointments for clients who prefer to meet in person.
345 Knechtel Way NE Suite 111
Bainbridge Island, WA 98110-1272
